you admins will most likely say NO! to this, but will the private e-mail button ever be activated?

The reason why that i'm asking this is due to so that the Administrators can send mini e-mail's to Members, Mod's, & other Admin's on the forum. so that you can tell us for

fourm updates
certain member removal to that person
important updates
server downtime

stuff like that

i'd say if this button is enabled there will be no more @aol.com, @adjmail.com things like that.

Yep